Usually when I write blog posts, I like to stay away from anything negative. After all, you’re planning a huge event and you’re excited (and maybe stressed) so no need to insert “Negative Nancy” here. But I would be remiss if I didn’t acknowledge that since you’re likely planning this event for the first time, you may be unsure of certain decisions or have regrets after the fact.
How awesome would it be if I can help you avoid some of that? I think super awesome… So that’s why today I’m going to share 4 Regrets Couples Have After Their Wedding.
There isn’t too much that I regret about our celebration because I was very organized and on top of things. For the most part, things turned out great with the exception of our transportation not showing up and the linens coming to the country club wrinkled and looking terrible (thank goodness my Aunt took care of it). I never even knew there was a problem until later but unfortunately for her, she had to show up with wet hair because she didn’t have the time to get ready because she was dealing with a mess.
Which leads me to Regret #1 😉
- Not having AT LEAST month-of coordination/planning services. I was SO stressed out over all the details and coordination that if I could go back and do it again, I’d invest in a wedding planner. And I wouldn’t even blink at eye because it would be money WELL spent. How much is your sanity worth to you?! haha. For a type A personality like me, it would have totally been worth it.
- According to Huffington Post, 98% of Brides regret not having a videographer. Although I think this number is inflated, I think many couples regret not investing in a professional videographer. As a bride who had video, the advice I would give would be to have a highlight video done by someone who is good! We used a high volume studio that just cranks out video and I have to tell you, our video is 2.5 hours long and I’ve never EVEN watched the whole thing. If I had a nice highlight video with a professional editing job, I would have been much more likely to share with friends and family but the video is SO DAMN LONG that I wouldn’t dare!
- Spending the entire dinner time greeting guests. Jon and I thought it would be a great idea to walk around the room and greet everyone. We had a large wedding (270 guests) and never even made it to everyone. Not only did we feel bad, our dinner was cold by the time we got to it. Luckily our venue was superb and remade our plates so we could eat a hot meal. Allow yourself the freedom to sit and enjoy your meal! You deserve it 🙂
- Losing sight of what’s important by planning a wedding vs. planning a marriage celebration. At the end of the day, you’re coming away with a life partner! With all the stress and details of planning, it’s easy to lose sight of this… Make an effort to not get caught up in the minutiae and revel in the moments; from seeing your partner for the first time and building something amazing TOGETHER to celebrating with the family and friends who love you both so much. I once had a couple who wrote a heart-felt thank you card to every guest and presented it to them at their place setting. That MELTED my heart! They got it right!
Are you planning a marriage celebration and looking for someone to capture it all? Drop me a line and let’s chat!